Why do I find it hard to be happy? JM 19.8.14
It’s your choosing. It’s always your choice whether to be happy, you can do this. You can have many things in your life that are not happy. You can have one thing you have seen that makes you happy. Or think of a thing you like in your head – cake or chocolate. Think of the thing you like, the taste of the thing you like. Imagine turning it around in your mouth for many moments. Feel the happiness of tasting it in your head. Choose the vibration of happy. Do more practice of this. How can you have the cake in your head? More practice then it comes easy to have the happy feeling. When your vibration has momentum for happy, then you will feel happier. If you have no vibration of happy then there is no momentum, then it’s hard to be happy. You must have the deliberate choosing for happy. At the end of each day before you sleep, have pen and paper and write 5 things that have made you happy that day. It’s hard when you start, then each day it gets a bit easier, then much easier. When it’s much easier then try the hard part – do it differently, write the 5 things then that you have done that day that make you happy. That’s harder. Then you will appreciate yourself more, this is hard. This you don’t do at present. You need first to think of the happy things. Make the momentum of happy by having the thinking in your head of the happy things or a good taste. This is needed for many days then the momentum grows faster, gradually building each day.
What type of environment is it best for me to live in, countryside, seaside, town?
You can have joy in any of them, you can also have joy in prison. Your now has no joy. Your prison is the monkey at present. (See Taming the Monkey mind) When your monkey is sleeping, then you can have joy, even in prison, it’s not important where you live. You can have joy when and where you choose. Always the choosing is in your head only, all environments can make you happy. Diversity of experience is good, when you are happy you will be wanting more change. You will not be wanting one thing always.
How can I make more friends?
The problem at present is that your ‘car’ is on the road of the not wanted. Your car is not on the shining road; friends don’t notice your light. Make yourself happy, then your car will be on the right road. Your vibration is different to the friends’ vibration; your vibration is slower and not shining. Your monkey has control of you (at present). When you have fear, it’s important to choose no fear – choose joy. Things don’t make you happy, it’s only the choosing in your head. Then you will be on the happy road where what you want is.
Car Analogy – Note from Saesneggar: Robert says that moment by moment, our vibration attracts (like a magnet) that version of reality that best matches our current vibration. I struggled to understand this concept, so he explained using the analogy that I am driving my car (living my now) along a section of road that matches my vibration. A change in my vibration causes my car to switch to a different road ̶ to happy (fast vibration) or sad (slow) or one of a million shades of grey in between (possible universes). Our life experience is attracted, section by section, in each moment as we go through life.
Robert insists that nobody can tell your future, not even your Inner Being. Humans can imagine a future based on past experiences. Your Inner Being can see a small distance in your headlights, based on probability and your current vibration, but your Inner Being cannot influence your vibration to switch roads, only you can do this.
For some of Robert’s tips on how to be happy see Attract Positivity